cUtie

Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot,
who calls you back when you hang up on him,
who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat,
or will stay awake just to watch you sleep…
wait for the boy who kisses your forehead,
who wants to show you off
to the world when you are in sweats,
who holds your hand in front of his friends,
who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on.
One who is constantly reminding you of how much
he cares and how lucky his is to have you….
The one who turns to his friends and says, ‘that’s her.’

1. Be realistic about each other. 
Don’t try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let’s face
it, guys-there’s only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has
had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical
appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few facials
! or treat ments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u’re
gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for
what u are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye. 

2. Always talk things out. 
Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues,
but u know what? This works with the gals. Don’t make assumptions about
each other’s feelings. Learn to xpress urself better so that ur partner
undrstands what u’re angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When
u stop talking to each other from the heart, it’s the beginning of the
end. 

3. Do stuff together. 
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve urselves
in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested
in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling
hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccor with him once in a while though
the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in
if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest
that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities"
instead. If u’re spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur
partner, it’s a warning sign that u’re drifting apart!!! 

4. Meet each other halfway. 
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock"
print, u shouldn’t kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room
tidy. There’s gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so
learn to meet each other halfway. 

5.Show ur love 
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if u have been
together for 5years. It’s wonderful to continue showing someone that u
care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine’s Day
card. Knit him mini-socks he can’t wear ( like for decoration purposes
=> ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for
him…so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been
together for quite a while. 

6. Respect each other. 
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh
at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority
complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse!
Love is about respecting each other’s feelings and being sensitive to each
other at all times. 

7. Bury the past. 
Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don’t bring up the happy things about
u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys,
don’t talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about
her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and
she might think that u saying all this b’cos u are gonna get back with
ur ex or not interested in her anymore.<
/P>

8. Sit on u r jealousy. 
All of us go thru’ spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship,
but don’t translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u’re gonna go through
ur partner’s mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know
something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads
thru’ the relationship before finally killing it. Trust ur partner; love
has to have trust in it. 

9. Keep ur commitments to each other. 
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking
promises, u need to talk! If u’re in a relationship, make ur partner ur
priority and don’t disappoint them if u can help it. It’s really terrible
when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it.
Don’t make promises u can’t keep. If ur partner starts to feel that he/she
is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her. 

10. Be honest. 
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning,
or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest",
we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When
u’re hurt, say so, and when u’re angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical.
If u can’t be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? f Love
is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probabl!
y isn’t worth it!

A very large number of romantic ideas that have been added to this site involve writing down reasons why you love your partner. This, when it comes to a large number of ideas, can be extremely time consuming and sometimes difficult to be creative with. Use this list to help spark your loving imagination and create an "ultimate" romantic gift for your love! Please note: Not all of the items on this list will apply to your relationship. When you see one that doesn’t, just substitute it with your own reason.

1. I love the way we finish each other’s sentences.
2. I love the way I know you’ll never give up on me.
3. I love the fact that I wouldn’t ever give up on you.
4. I love the way you look at me.
5. I love how beautiful your eyes are.
6. I love the way I can’t imagine a day without you in my life.
7. I love the way if we were ever separated I wouldn’t know how to go on.
8. I love the way we cuddle and watch sunsets together.
9. I love the way we sometimes stay up all night and just talk, then watch the sunrise together.
10. I love how I know you’ll always be there when I need you to be.
11. I love the fact that I will always be there for you too.
12. I love how when I dream of my life partner, the only person that I can see is you.
13. I love how complete I feel when I am with you.
14. I love how our bodies just fit together.
15. I love the way you make me laugh.
16. I love the way you laugh.
17. I love the way you won’t compromise yourself when we are together.
18. I love the way you won’t let me compromise myself.
19. I love your thoughtfulness.
20. I love your tenderness.
21. I love your ability to speak without saying a single word.
22. I love the way we glance at each other across the room and know what each other is thinking.
23. I love the way, how even though we may be miles apart I still feel like you’re right here with me.
24. I love the way you surprise me with the perfect gifts that show you pay attention to me.
25. I love the way you’ll watch a sporting game with me even though you may not be interested in it.
26. I love the way you treat my friends.
27. I love your love for the things that interest me.
28. I love the way you let me live my life freely without jealousy.
29. I love how you demand respect but are not controlling.
30. I love how I would do anything in this world to make you happy.
31. I love how you would do anything in this world to make me happy.
32. I love the way your voice sounds over the phone.
33. I love the way your voice sounds when you whisper sweet nothings in my ear.
34. I love the completeness and oneness I feel when we make love.
35. I love your sensuality.
36. I love how our romance feels like the perfect romance movie.
37. I love how you are my soul mate.
38. I love the way you handle troubled times.
39. I love the way you respect me.
40. I love the way you protect and defend me.
41. I love how you feel when we cuddle.
42. I love the softness of your lips against mine.
43. I love the softness of you lips against my body.
44. I love the feeling of your hair brushing against me when we make love.
45. I love laying in bed at night talking about nothing.
46. I love waking up to find we’ve been cuddling together all night.
47. I love the surprises you leave for me.
48. I love your intelligence.
49. I love your ingenuity.
50. I love your ability to make friends where ever we go.
51. I love your love for life.
52. I love your passion for your hobbies and interests.
53. I love how every time I look at you, you take my breath away.
54. I love how I thank God everyday for bringing someone as wonderful as you into my life.
55. I love the fact you gave me the gift of our children.
56. I love the special moments that we shared that will remain my fondest memories of you and I.
57. I love spending the holidays with the one person I love the most.
58. I love how my heart skips a beat whenever you walk into the room.
59. I love how you love me.
60. I love how I love you.
61. I love the ways you choose to show your affection for me.
62. I love the way you inspire me to be more than I am.
63. I love the way you spark my creativity and imagination.
64. I love the way you make me feel like anything is possible as long as I’m with you.
65. I love your sense of humor.
66. I love the way you make me feel like royalty.
67. I love the way you dress.
68. I love your understated elegance.
69. I love you just the way you are.
70. I love your spontaneity.
71. I love our life together.
72. I love how if I died right now I would be the happiest person alive knowing I found my one true love.
73. I love the fact that we will grow old together.
74. I love your way with words.
75. I love the way you look when your sleeping.
76. I love the way you think you look awful when you first wake up when it is actually then I find you the most beautiful.
77. I love your willingness to share everything and most especially your heart with me.
78. I love your strength of character.
79. I love taking showers together.
80. I love the way you leave me love notes to find whenever you’re gone.
81. I love the way you treat me.
82. I love the way you take care of us.
83. I love your cooking.
84. I love the way you take the time to thank me for doing every day things.
85. I love the way you show your affection when we are around friends and/or family.
86. I love the way you are not scared to show your affection when we are in public.
87. I love your confidence.
88. I love your ability to make me feel better when times are tough.
89. I love the way we make up after a fight.
90. I love how you treat our children.
91. I love the way you support me when I’m off track.
92. I love the way you take the time to show me how much you love me.
93. I love your beautiful hair.
94. I love your body.
95. I love your openness to try new things.
96. I love your ability to talk things through.
97. I love your courage to be you.
98. I love your greatness.
99. I love the fact that you want to be with me and only me.
100. I love how I am and feel when I am with you!
101. I love you for you!

1. Tell her she is beautiful (not hot, fine, or sexy)

9 . Pick her over all the other girls you hang out with.

10 . Write her notes. (she loves them)

11 . Introduce her to family and friends . . . as your girlfriend.

12 . Play with her hair.

13 . Pick her up, tickle her, and play-wrestle with her.

14 . Sit in the park and just talk to her.

15 . Tell her funny jokes, tell her stupid jokes, or just tell her jokes.

16 . Throw pebbles at her window in the middle of the night . . . just because you missed her.

18. Carve your names into a tree.

19 . If she’s mad at you, kiss her.

22 . Treat her the same around your friends as you do when your alone.

23 . Look her in the eyes and smile.

27 . If your in love with her . . . tell her.

Amaryllis Lily
pride and beauty

Azalea
temperance

Bachelor’s Buttons
celibacy

Begonia
beware

Camellias
Red: unpretentious excellence
White: exquisite loveliness

Carnations:
Red: my poor heart
Pink: I’ll never forget you.
Yellow: disdain
White: sweet and lovely

Chrysanthemum:
Red: I love
White: truth
Yellow: slighted love

Crocus
abuse not
Spring: youthful gladness

Cyclamen
diffidence

Daffodils
regard

Dahlia
changeable

Daisy
innocence

Forget-me-not
constant love

French Marigold
jealousy, discontent

Gladiolus
I’m really sincere

Hibiscus
rare beauty

Hyacinth
sporting
White: discreet loveliness

Hydrangea
Thank you for understanding

Iris
communication; faith; hope

Lilac
Purple: first love
White: youthful innocence

Lily of the Valley
increased happiness

Lily
White: purity

Mistletoe
kiss me

Narcissus
ego

Nasturtium
loyalty

Orchid
love; beauty; refinement

Pansies
consideration

Peony
bashfulness

Ranunculus
radiant charm

Rhodadendron
danger

Roses
Red: love
Yellow: friendship
Pink: young love, romance, first love
White: pure, innocence

Snapdragon
presumption

Sweet William
bravery

Tiger Flower
befriend me friend

Tuberosa
illicit pleasures

Tulip
fame
Red: declaration of love
Yellow: unrequited love

Violet
modesty
Blue: faithful devotion

Zinnias
thoughtful recollections

Someday you’re gonna realize
One day you’ll see this though my eyes
By then I won’t even be there
I’ll be happy somewhere
Even if I cared
I know you don’t really see my worth
You think you’re the best guy on earth
Well I’ve got news for you
I know I’m not that strong
But it won’t take long
Won’t take long

Someday someone’s gonna love me
The way I wanted you to need me
Someday someone’s gonna take your place
One day I’ll forget about you
Someday someday

Right now I know you can tell
I’m down and I’m not doing well
But one day these tears they will all run dry
I won’t have to cry, sweet goodbye

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there…to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become.

You never know who these people may be but then you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.

And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower or heart.

Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. Safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet affect your life. The successes and downfalls that you experience can create who you are, and the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones.

If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart to.

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and to open your heart and eyes to little things. Make every day count.

Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again.

Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen.

Let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high.

We human beings certainly are fond of steps. I noticed this especially the other day when I was browsing at a local book store. As I passed by the self-help section I noticed that almost every book had steps in the title. There were books with steps for success, for making money, for dieting, for improving your marriage, for raising children, and for invigorating your love life. Now I haven?t read any of these best sellers, so I am not sure if they work or not. It just seems strange to me that we human beings have to make everything such hard work.

After all, what is harder than climbing up a flight of steps except maybe climbing them while carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. I know too many people, however, who insist that those steps be climbed and that weight be carried. They refuse to believe that a good life can be fun, that happiness can be easy, and that joy and love can be simply chosen. They don?t believe that God could love us enough to give us these things as free gifts.

All these things they believe must be earned through hard work, discipline, sacrifice and climbing the steps of adversity. If they do allow themselves one moment of joy it is only after earning it with months of misery.

For all of these people then I offer my one step plan to joy, love, peace, and happiness. It is easy to implement, requires no special equipment, and can be done any time. It is simple to remember and even more simple to do. You just choose these things right now. Choose them in your mind, heart, and soul. Choose them this very second and they are yours. They remain yours too for as long as you keep choosing them. They are God’s gifts to us His Children.

These people, of course, won’t follow my plan. It is too simple, too easy, and doesn’t have enough steps. I hope that you do, however, and make your life a living testament to joy.

One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, "Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd." I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on. As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him. He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes.

My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him and as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye. As I handed him his glasses, I said, "Those guys are jerks. They really should get lives." He looked at me and said, "Hey thanks!" There was a big smile on his face. It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude. I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before. He said he had gone to private school before now. I would have never hung out with a private school kid before. We talked all the way home, and I carried his books. He turned out to be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play football on Saturday with me and my friends. He said yes.

We hung all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him. And my friends thought the same of him. Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again. I stopped him and said, "Damn boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!" He just laughed and handed me half the books.

Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were seniors, began to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown, and I was going to Duke. I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem. He was going to be a doctor, and I was going for business on a football scholarship. Kyle was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the time about being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for graduation. I was so glad it wasn’t me having to get up there and speak.

Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than me and all the girls loved him! Boy, sometimes I was jealous. Today was one of those days. I could see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the back and said, "Hey, big guy, you’ll be great!" He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled. "Thanks," he said.

As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began. "Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach… but mostly your friends. I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a story." I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the first day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his mom wouldn’t have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile. "Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable."

I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment. I saw his mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did I realize it’s depth.

It’s when you realise it was all for nothing. It’s when you realise it was all just a little too late. And all in that one second, your head is so jammed full of other thoughts, wild fantasies and romantic stories, that you miss the oppertunity. The oppertunity to say … the words that are never said. If you think about it, it’s easy.
"I love chocolate"
It’s not hard. But when you change one little word, it all gets too hard. And then you miss the moment. And moments are elusive things, you can never get them back. Sure, create new ones, but it’s like a cover of a Beatles track, they always sound cheap and nasty, and well, contrieved. Because, lets face it, they are.
There is never the same raw passion, the same self-sacraficial optimism for the future. Flinging yourself over a cliff face with a parachute you’ve never tested out. A leap of faith.
But then, to loose, not only that moment, but also the one person in the world you thought you thought you’d share that one moment with…
It’s the parachute not opening
The power cut
The unfinished master piece
The still-born baby
A waste
A tragic wasteland of broken hearts.
Tredging through masses of unfulfilled hopes, wants, wishes, dreams, desires, needs… weighed down with the weight of tears, dragged backwards by a false smile.
An embrace which lasts a second, a goodbye which lasts forever.